Question by  sususu (866)

How can you help someone who is losing a child?

My best friend's child is not going to make it, I would like to comfort her but have no idea what to do or say.


Answer by  singlady (161)

Words might not be necessary, just your presence and support can help. Perhaps as important as what to say is what not to say. Avoid comments like "it's for the best" or "you'll have other children". Ask your friend if she wants to share what she is feeling. Encourage her to talk about her child, and be a good listener.


Answer by  Pineapple7 (260)

Sometimes saying less and being there more is the best route to go in this situation. Of course, offer your sympathy and your love, but also support your friend and her family in other ways. Offer to clean and cook for them while they are staying with their son. Let them spend as much time with their son by assisting.


Answer by  liblue (683)

Being with someone who's child is dying requires a strong friendship. There is not alot of time for permission to tend to basic needs;rather a pitch in without asking and attending to anything you can for the shocked parent. Being present is the most important and helping with to much stimulation is key.


Answer by  diva25 (4016)

Be there for them, but don't get in her face. You have to be very careful about getting too close or doing something that will make her uncomfortable. Let her tell you what she wants.

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